What's it like to try sex toys for the first time?
Maybe you're a little curious and a little nervous; maybe you've browsed a few product pages, but the more you look, the less you know where to start; maybe you're even worried: "Should I not buy this?"
Don't worry, every beginner goes through this—you're not alone.
Finding your first toy is like finding your first pair of shoes that truly fit—comfortable, safe, easy to use, and something you can't wait to try again.
So don't worry, we'll start with simple, gentle, safe, and easy-to-control products.
Sex toys for beginners
(Includes women/men/couples)
1. Mini Vibrators
Mini vibrators are compact, quiet, and beginner-friendly, offering gentle yet satisfying external stimulation—commonly used on the clitoris, labia, perineum, and surrounding sensitive areas. They’re ideal for those who want something easy to control without overwhelming intensity. Most beginners start with small, simple models and gradually work toward more powerful options as they learn what they enjoy.
Among all the styles available, bullet-shaped mini vibrators remain the most popular choice. They’re discreet, travel-friendly, and provide surprisingly focused stimulation for their size. Many first-time users also appreciate that bullets are affordable and uncomplicated—you don’t need an advanced or high-tech toy for your first experience. A well-designed mini vibrator is more than enough to help you explore comfortably and confidently.
Compared to mini vibrators, Wand Vibrators offer a wider and more soothing external stimulation. Their rounded heads distribute vibrations over a larger surface area, providing a more massage-like rather than concentrated stimulation sensation. Because precise positioning is not required, stick vibrators allow beginners to explore comfortably without worrying about technique or angle. This makes stick vibrators especially beginner-friendly for those who find precise vibrations too intense.
Despite their gentle touch, stick vibrators still provide satisfying stimulation without causing discomfort. They are ideal for stimulating the clitoris, inner thighs, nipples, and other sensitive areas, and their handle design makes them easy to operate even for first-time users.
3. Wearable or Hands-Free Stimulators
Wearable or hands-free stimulators are designed to comfortably fit the body, providing external vibrations and, depending on the model, internal stimulation. Its internal massage arms insert to stimulate the G-spot, while the external arms stimulate the clitoral area. This dual-contact design eliminates the need for frequent hand adjustments, providing a more immersive experience.
Because wearable toys are self-locking, beginners often find them easier to use—no need to worry about proper grip or angle adjustments. Simply wear it, relax, and let the toy work. The internal massage arms are typically soft, flexible, and non-irritating, making them ideal for those who want to gently explore G-spot sensations.
Sex toys for male beginners
Don't forget, men—you have choices too. We have a wide range of men's sex toys waiting for you to explore.
① Vibrating Rings
Vibrating rings are simple to use and provide immediate results. No learning is required to obtain controlled stimulation, and their compact size makes them easy to conceal and store. Many couples enjoy using vibrating rings because both partners can feel the vibration, helping to maintain an erection for longer while also stimulating the clitoris, making it a natural "shared pleasure toy."
Recommended for: Men with no experience, men who want to increase sensitivity but don't want excessive stimulation, and users who prefer simple, unchallenging sex toys.
② Masturbation Sleeves
Masturbation sleeves, commonly known as "masturbation cups," are one of the most intuitive and comfortable toys for men exploring masturbation for the first time. They are soft and flexible, designed to simulate gentle, natural pleasure without any complicated techniques or setup. Due to their smooth and elastic inner walls, beginners can easily control pressure, rhythm, and speed according to their own comfort.
Only a small amount of water-based lubricant is needed—apply, insert, and then explore different movements at your own pace. The intensity of the experience can be adjusted to personal preference, making masturbation sleeves an excellent way to understand one's own sensitivity. These toys are also quiet, discreet, and easy to clean, which is why many men choose them as a starting point before trying more complex or vibrating toys.
Beginner toys for couples
① Vibrating Rings
When worn by the male, both partners can feel the vibration, easily achieving shared stimulation. No instructions or complicated setup are required; it naturally integrates into the intimate experience.
This is one of the most popular introductory options for couples.
Wearable vibrators allow couples to maintain intimacy, move naturally, and enjoy hands-free, shared stimulation. They are quiet and comfortable, allowing the focus of the experience to be on the sensations themselves, rather than the device.
They make the transition from "trying out sex toys" to "enjoying it together" smoother.
Massagers are perfect for exploring different erogenous zones without creating intense stimulation. Soft, gentle, and easy to use—they are the perfect choice for couples who want a relaxed and stress-free experience when using sex toys.
Anal toys suitable for beginners
If you're excited about exploring backdoors but don't know where to start, then anal beads and anal plugs are definitely a good choice. They're suitable for both single-player and couples play.Note: Choose toys specifically designed for this purpose with a widened bottom to prevent them from slipping inside.
Precautions for using sex toys
Many people fail their first time not because the product is bad, but because their mindset and methods are wrong.
1. Always start with the easiest setting. No matter who you are, the first step should be "adaptation."
2. Relax your body.don't rush for orgasm. Comfort is more important than speed.
3. Try different positions. Erogenous zones are never written in textbooks.
4. Don't push yourself to the point of discomfort. Toys are meant to help the body, not force it.
5. Lubrication can elevate the experience to a whole new level. Water-based lubricants are especially suitable for beginners.
